The secret to clear communication, to compassion, is being open. Not open to this or that, some arbitrary something that we deign to be open to, but just … being open, to anything, to everything. And to that, we must simply … stop.
Once upon a time, a theatrical group I was with had a piece about a Relationship. It featured three characters — the two people in the Relationship and a third as the Relationship itself. The piece mocked how we treat Relationships, as if they were something entirely separate from the people involved in them.